A paralyzing and debilitating sense that creeps into our human souls, infiltrating our physical and mental psyche until it consumes us. What we fear in our own minds, in fact, can become true in our own minds by emotion and feelings, not by scientific fact.
Over the past few months, I have been addressing a certain fear that has paralyzed me mentally for nearly 20 years. I’m seeing a therapist to address it. It’s not a major deal for many, but it is a big deal for me.
The “fear” that I am dealing with, over the years, had developed into a “narrative”, or a story that is fictional. It was a creation of my mind. I believed it was true, when it’s not.
Oddly enough, the perception of fear goes hand-in-hand with recent events, notably the political atmosphere (what else is new?)
As I scour through my social media networks, television, and newspapers (yes, they still exist, folks), we have continued this long-running episode of a fear mentality that are not entirely real.
Are these fears that people believe in really true, or are they just what they are, “fictional stories”?
I do not have a rooting interest in regards to the candidates for President of the United States, but it is clear that the fear of unknown is driving people batty…including smart people, who has thrown rational and pragmatism out the door.
Our society has become “fear merchants” in order to sway people from what is true and what isn’t, by using fear.
Here is one example. Follow me here: how plausible is it that Donald Trump is going to build a wall? Not hardly, if you walk through each step that he has to take for that to happen.
First, he has to get Congress to introduce a bill on the floor, go through committee, be debated, and then to be voted on by both the House and the Senate. Is it possible someone will introduce a bill to build a wall? Yes. How feasible is it for anyone in their right minds, regardless of party lines, to pass such a bill?
Congress has to appropriate funding for a wall, hire contractors and employees to build it, and how long will this “pork barrel project” take to be completed?
Finally, the courts have to determine if it’s legal to construct such a thing, adding the liability, engineering, and other things to consider.
That is why we have “checks and balances” between the executive, legislative, and judicial branches. It’s designed to keep all three branches of government in check. For anyone who attempts to defy the checks and balances should look at the guy on the left as a cautionary tale.
This “wall” talk is a fallacy…concocted by fear.
Yet, a large number of people keep touting of fears of this level because they “believe” it…and they expect you to believe it, even if you don’t.
All of this hubbub is similar when President Obama introduced the Patient Protection and Affordable Care Act (I refuse to call it by its nickname. Personally I think it’s a stupid nickname for it)? People started talking about “death panels” and the like, fearing about what the plan will do (in their own minds), without taking the time to fully read it and ask salient questions.
It’s disturbing that very smart people become “fear merchants” about anything that trips their trigger. Whether it’s about someone building a “wall” (that’ll never happen), free college education (college profs and faculty are not working for free), and fearing that not-so bright people are mounting an anti-intellectual war against them.
Smart people need to take a chill pill…and stop pumping fear, because they are the ones who are listening to the very thing that they are fighting against: fear.
Our fears are based by what we hear, and we adopt it as fact…when most of it isn’t true.
It’s a story that we create mentally to satisfy our irrational and lurid imaginations of what we are afraid of.
We spend more time imagining the most vivid or outrageous things, and we ignore the subtler and slower ones that are brimming underneath .
What is a more likely scenario? A wall being built around the United States, or possible disruption and infighting for delegates between Bernie Sanders and Hillary Clinton at the Democratic convention in Philadelphia?
We know as a fact that Sanders has yet to give up his campaign run, and after the debacle in Iowa and Nevada, it’s clear that it is possible that Philly could be a mess. It could be prevented…if Sanders should decide to end his campaign and endorse Clinton. We will see.
In her 2013 TED talk, novelist Karen Thompson Walker said that “…we can’t possibly prepare for all of the fears that our imaginations can concoct.” Walker detailed the events that took place after the whaleship Essex was struck by a sperm whale in 1819.
Late last week, I took the first steps in getting over my particular fear. I had conjured up so many scenarios in my mind that may never come true. Having a cluttered mind isn’t always good, especially for those who observe and soak up information like me.
I have to take a pragmatic approach to fear: stop fearing of what “might” happen, based on hearsay. I don’t know what is going to happen. No one knows. That’s why I have decided to stop worrying about things that may not happen.
Fear is an imaginative illusion.
Especially those that make no sense at all.